Jan 21, 2010

And Now For Something Completely Different.....

As a grown adult, don't ask me how I wound up watching this clip on YouTube. 



Anyway, the point is that I did.... (yes, I admit it)...and I couldn't help but laugh.  Does anyone ever feel that they relate to life like these guys do?  I sure do, at times. 

I mean - they're adrift in a confusing world, earnest in learning about it, but unequipt.   They sure put a lot of effort in communicating with the "earthling" - and they seem to take a lot of joy in "discovering" its "language."  But how well do they actually succeed in the realm of true communication? 

Beyond the allegorical meaning I find in it for my own life, I also have to admire the talent of puppeteers who could manage to capture anyone's attention with this, even for a few moments...  I mean, who thought that a bag with eyes could emote?

Ok, yes, maybe I am taking this a little too seriously.  But, hey, it's all in fun.  Sometimes it truly is the little things that amuse me...

Dec 31, 2009

Musings on Facing a New Year

Well, it's been an interesting year.   It's been my first full year of blogging for Psychology Today...which has truly been stellar.  

It's a year which I started out a social media newbie...  I can't really say I'm an expert now, but I've developed a presence on Facebook and Twitter.   I've made a few stumbles along the way, but I'm proud that I've gotten as far as I have.  My readers have generally been kind and forgiving of my missteps (thank you!).

I've had some interesting experiences...gotten to have some interesting dialogues.    Some good, some not so good.   It's been a frustrating, but rewarding, year.

Sometimes it's hard for me, to come to the end of the year...it implies a change which is not usually pleasant for me.  But here we are.  I wonder what the new year will bring.  For the first time, I find myself thinking that the coming year could be really different than the previous....

I have no idea what to expect...not sure whether it will be good or bad.    I really hope it will be good. 

But, as I count my blessings - I have to say that chief among them has been my readers.  So, I owe you all a great measure of thanks.  Your comments, support, and readership have been the single most fulfilling and motivating influences in my life for the past year. 

I hope that your year has gone well, and that you will have a great 2010.  And I hope that in the coming year, I can give to all of you, what you have given to me. 

Thank You, and Happy New Year!

Sep 22, 2009

New from PT: At The Wedding

Lately, thanks to some great discussions on Facebook groups, and Aspie Teacher's recent post, "Why Can't They Understand That I'm A Girl," I've been thinking a lot about how Asperger's effects gender expression. In my new post for PT, I wrote about my experiences in the "girl world" of beauty - and how, despite having a desire to succeed, I always felt like an outsider, due to my social limitations.

How much of gender is socialization, and how much is inborn? And how does Asperger's change the socialization of gender? How many of us feel subtly out of sync with others of our gender? And how much of that feeling in only perception...born by the insecurity of being unable to read others' reactions to us?

At The Wedding

I made the final touches, and put down the makeup brush. From over my shoulder, someone handed the bride a mirror. Gulping down a knot of anxiety as she examined my handiwork, I found myself thinking: After a lifetime of feeling like an outsider in the "girl" world, how did I wind up here?
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Jul 23, 2009

Controversy in the Autistic Community

John Elder Robison recently wrote a great post on his Psychology Today blog about the controversies in the autism community. He asks, "Why Can't We All Get Along?" The post seemed to generate some very good discussion.

One particular comment interested me...it brought up the question of whether we all mean the same thing when we talk about a "cure." See my response here.

John also posted a follow up exploring what acceptance really means. Does being accepted mean that you can behave however you want, and society has to just accept you? See what he has to say here.

What do you think? Where are the boundaries between self-acceptance and bad behavior? What does a "cure" mean? Should we pursue it, or no? Are a cure and acceptance mutually exclusive? And why can't we all just get along?

Jul 15, 2009

The Benefits and Shortcomings of Associative Thought

I just wrote a post for Psychology Today about the unusual side effects of my particular brand of associative & visual thought. I'd love to get some feedback from my aspie friends. What are your experiences with associative thought? Do you think in pictures, or in words? Do you think either method of thought provides specific advantages?

What are your thoughts?

Is Harry Really Hairy?


In a recent book, and accompanying article, autistic savant Daniel Tammet explored the connections between associative thought and creativity. Inspired by his thoughts, I found myself exploring all the ways associative thinking manifests in my life. As I explored, I realized something that I hadn't expected - that the roots of many of my social issues lie at the intersection of visual and associative thought. Read More

May 6, 2009

Gardening, Asperger Style: Learning When Not To Follow The Rules

Well, it's spring again and the gardening bug has definitely bitten me. While the weather is still too unpredictable where I live to plant, that didn't stop me from stopping by a local nursery to dream. While making my great plans for the season ahead - I found myself reflecting on the origins of my interest in gardening, and my disastrous early attempts. I wondered...how much of it was typical, and how much of it was Asperger's?

http://blogs.psychologytoday.com/blog/aspergers-diary/200905/gardening-asperger-style-learning-when-not-follow-the-rules

Nov 9, 2008

Six Months....

Well, it's been more than six months now that I've been blogging for Psychology Today. I have to say, it's been a lot of fun. Sharing the site with eminent researchers, psychologists, psychiatrists, and writers has been very interesting.

The greatest opportunity has been to actually communicate with some of those whose research is shaping the current view of Asperger's and Autism. Take, for example, my latest post Joe and the Mega-Sized Smoothie: Language and Asperger's, which is a response to Edouard Machery's recent work Intentional Action and Asperger Syndrome. The subsequent discussion has been extremely interesting.

While I disagree with the preliminary conclusions made in Mr. Machery's study, I'm highly gratified that a researcher is open-minded, willing and interested enough to explore these differences. To quote, one of my favorites, Ghandi, "Honest disagreement is often a good sign of progress."

Apr 19, 2008

My New Blog

It's funny how things happen, a few months back I received an e-mail from an editor at Psychology Today. She had read some of what I had written here, and liked it. So, in short, I have a new blog "Asperger's Diary", on Psychology Today's new blog site. It's my hope that through this new blog, I can help drive some mainstream awareness and understanding regarding issues related to Asperger's Syndrome, so please check it out. I welcome your feedback & comments - I want to make it the best it can be.

I'm still keeping a presence here for my aspie friends. When I first began blogging here, I had no idea how many of my experiences would resonate so strongly with other aspies, or what a community I was entering into. So, thanks for your readership keep sharing your stories. The more we share, the less alone we feel, and the more we connect.

Best regards to all my friends out there...

The Aspie Princess (aspieprincess at worldnet.att.net)

Mar 17, 2008

Differences and Similarities - "Flavors" of AS

I have mentioned before how interesting it is to me to see the different "flavors" of AS. After reading Temple Grandin's book, Developing Talents, I've moved on to Daniel Tammet's book Born on a Blue Day. On the back is a quote from Temple Grandin, talking about how "fascinating" it is to read about a the mind of a mathematical savant whose mind is "both similar to and different from my visual brain." I have to say that I agree.

While my visual brain is nowhere near the pinpoint accuracy of Temple's, I would say that my way of relating to the world is similar to hers. I have always related to the world in a visual way - and really, until lately I didn't realize that others did not do the same.

Just as Temple describes in her many articles and books, I see things in "photo-realistic images." As a child, this made me a crack-whiz at spelling, because as long is I studied the words long enough (and/or intently enough), my brain would form a "snap shot" of the word which was stored in my memory for quick retrieval. Then, when asked to spell the word, all I needed to do was pull up the "snap shot" and read it back, just as if I were reading it from the page.

Reading about Daniel's experiences is very interesting to me. The way he experiences the world is similar in some ways, others not. While he also relates the world in a visual way, it seems that it is in a more symbolic way. Letters and numbers have their own colors and textures, with their own "feel" as well. While it sounds very unusual to me, I actually have heard something similar before.

My possibly aspie co-worker, which I mentioned in Aspies, Aspies Everywhere and Groups (The Horror!), described something very similar to me and another friend. He writes quite a bit in his role at work, and we all got to talking about writing in general (specifically, how shocking it is that in a corporate environment, how many highly educated people can't seem to do it well). Eventually that led to talking about school.

It turned out that all three of us at the table had excelled in spelling in school, all for different reasons. Me, for the reason I mentioned above. My NT friend had an entirely different way of managing it (which generally involved sounding things out). Our PAC (potentially aspie co-worker), talked about how he could tell how a word was spelled by how it appeared in his mind. He described certain letters appearing in his mind in a certain color, so he would always know the spelling of the word by the sequence of colors that appeared in that word as represented in his mind.

Daniel Tammett describes a slightly more nuanced and complicated phenomenon. For him, the letters don't remain the same color if consolidated into a word. He describes:
"I can even make the color of a word change by mentally adding initial letters of the word to turn the word into another: at is a red word, but add the letter H to get hat and it becomes a white word."

Daniel Tammet and my PAC both share this manner of relating to the world that is different, I also find that there are similarities as well. For example, one of Daniel's savant talents (which I've seen impressively demonstrated on TV) is an incredible facility for foreign languages.

While I'm nowhere near as talented as he is, this is also an area which I excelled. It has always stricken me as strange, given that language is an often highlighted area of difficulty for many people on the autistic spectrum. But for people like me, and Daniel Tammett - it comes uncommonly quickly and easily.

I find myself wondering - what is it in our individual makeup that causes these differences? Why is it that my PAC and Daniel Tammet have this unique way of seeing letters and words, but I don't? And why do I find it easy to pick up foreign language, but others on the spectrum struggle with language altogether? What are the similarities and differences that make this possible?

Neither of these ways of being are necessarily NT, but are very different from each other. As much so as some of the accounts of people on the spectrum that I've read who don't think visually at all. What is the commonality that causes such a range of symptoms? Is it all about what area of the brain is wired differently? And, at what point does a different way of being aspie transform into being something completely different altogether?

Mar 12, 2008

It's The Little Things

It's funny how little things can make you happy beyond all reason. I think this is likely true of the general population, but I think especially true in the aspie life. Our innate intensity makes amplifies our reactions.

It sounds really odd - but I've spent the last few weeks floating on a cloud because I finally got a library card! (How geeky is that!)

I won't go into details, but for many years, due to either a glitch, or a really preposterous policy (I'm not sure which), I was not allowed to get a library card at my local library without paying a gargantuan sum. I think it was really something like gerrymandering...I didn't live within the lines they drew as "officially" in district...whatever....

Anyway, a few weeks ago, I decided to take another run at it and poof! Suddenly all barriers were removed! I felt like a kid in a candy store. After several years of only being able to skim books that I was interested in the bookstore, and add them to my continuous list of "books I want," suddenly I can read any book I want without spending a dime.

My long list of asperger books that I wanted to check out, couldn't find in any bookstore, and that I would have had to order online, now is available to me whenever I want it, at a few clicks of a mouse. Of course, my local library doesn't stock many of them directly, but say hello to the interlibrary loan!

I am, of course, on total aspie obsession mode. My husband keeps joking with me that I should just get myself a bed and live there...

It's like being freed after living so many years straitjacketed by lack of access. (My, my, how dramatic can I get!)

It's been so long - the technology has completely passed me by. Renewing books online, downloading e-books, online research libraries and card catalogs from all affiliated libraries....WOO HOO!! It's Star Trek time!

I've already ripped my way (figuratively, of course) through several books that I have been dying to read for years. One was Temple Grandin's book Developing Talents, which I found very encouraging to read. While it was written with a thrust towards someone much younger and less established in career than I am, I still enjoyed it. I wonder what my life would have been like had I had a diagnosis and access to such a book when I was first venturing into the world of work.

I'm a great fan of Temple Grandin, having read both of her first two books Emergence, and Thinking in Pictures, and, of course, Oliver Sacks' description of her in An Anthropologist on Mars.

Interestingly, it's the little things that resonate in these first person accounts. My first inkling that I might be on the autistic spectrum was when I saw Rain Man for the first time. It was the little things that the autistic character, Raymond, did that jumped out at me. How he seized upon a radio jingle and repeated it, over and over - "97X BAM! The future of rock and roll! 97X BAM! The future of rock and roll." How he hummed along with the distinctive noise that a car makes when crossing from regular road to a suspension bridge, while staring, fascinated, at the shapes the bridge towers make against the sky as you speed past them. Rocked me to my toes - because it was that clear moment of recognition. I did that. I am that.

In Temple Grandin's books, she talks about a childhood fixation with an amusement park ride called The Rotor. One of these machines that spins so quickly the centrifugal force sticks you to the wall. Yup. Did that. Or when she talked about developing her squeeze machine - I flashed back to being a four or five year old, climbing between the mattress and box spring of my bed to take my naps, or wiggling myself into the cleft between the wall and the bed. The soothing feeling of the pressure against my body. Yup. Me.

You could put the two of us next to each other, and I'm sure from the big picture we be as different as can be. But in the little things, we're the same. And suddenly, those little things seem big.

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